TRANSFORM YOUR EMUNAH!

282 - Purim (Part-1)

We are so privileged that every single one of us will have the opportunity b'ezrat Hashem in just a few days, to experience the holiest day of the year. A well-known Torah teaching that many Torah commentaries bring down in the name of the Arizal is that although we are accustomed to referring to Yom Kippur as the holiest day of the year, and in a sense it's easy to relate to that fact when we are all trying to be at our top form, repenting, and making our maximum effort to surround ourselves in holiness through our fasting, prayers, and the many other mitzvos of the day, however, when it comes to the day of Purim, the first thought that might come to our minds in connotation of this day is wine, feasting, and the like. However, as the Arizal famously teaches, that in the Torah, Yom Kippur is referred to as Yom Kippurim, which can also be read as Yom k-purim; it is a day like Purim. Meaning to say, Yom Kippur is an extremely holy day - so holy it is that it is almost as holy as Purim. But it does not match the holiness of Purim, because Purim is the holiest day of the year which surpasses every other day of our Jewish calendar. 
Throughout the year when one is approached for charity, especially if it's a significant sum, one is certainly entitled and sometimes encouraged by halacha to investigate if this is a legitimate and worthy cause. When it comes to Purim, however, the halacha dictates that when one stretches out their hand asking for charity, we don't ask questions; we just give. Of course, that does not mean that we are obligated to give millions of dollars to the entire world, but rather the principle that is being taught is that although throughout the year one is entitled to ask questions, on the day of Purim one's attitude should be that of complete generosity, and within one's budget of what one intends to give to charity, one should just give freely to those who are requesting, rather than investigating by asking the person questions to see if this is truly a worthy cause. 
And many Torah commentaries extend the idea behind this law to our relationship with Hashem. Every single one of us is considered like a very poor person standing before Hashem. Throughout the year, when we ask Hashem for things, many a time the heavenly court begins to investigate the matter to see if we are truly worthy. There are many considerations and do we truly deserve what we are requesting. Whereas on Purim, Torah commentaries explain that the heavenly courts do not ask questions whether we are worthy or not, but rather this is the most opportune time to receive what we might be requesting.
Now, of course, this does not mean that whatever we do ask for on Purim we will for sure receive, because there are many considerations beyond our understanding. Sometimes when we ask for something, Hashem knows that in the bigger picture it will be detrimental for us, and therefore the reason He will not give us what we have requested is not because our prayer did not make its way up, but rather because Hashem understands that this will not be good for us. There could be many other considerations, such as if a person is asked for health or wealth and the like, there are many ways to measure what true health or true wealth is. For a person who was supposed to suffer from tremendous illness, if they now after their prayers will be blessed to only experience mild illness, that could certainly be considered healthy in comparison to what was supposed to be. And similarly when it comes to wealth, if a person has requested that Hashem bless them with financial success, there are many levels as to what is considered to be financially wealthy. 
As we've discussed many times, our job in this world is not to understand things, but rather to believe, to have emunah. And what we are being taught here, loud and clear, from many Torah commentaries, is that Purim is a tremendously holy day, to the point that if any time is going to be the opportune time for our prayers to be answered, Purim is the day. What a tremendous privilege each one of us has that in just a few days' time, we will experience the great and holy day of Purim.

281 - Gratitude (Part-10)

Let us remind ourselves, the only reason Hashem created the world was in order to share His goodness with every single one of us, and therefore anything that ever transpires throughout our lives can only be for our ultimate benefit. And at the same time, let us remind ourselves that we are taught that our main focus in this world, ultimately the foundation of the whole Torah and all the mitzvos, is to practice emunah, belief, specifically when I don't understand, to believe.
Hashem designed the world in a way that everything is conducive for an opportunity to believe. So although we are taught from all the Torah sources unanimously that ultimately Hashem created the world only to give to us, only to be good to us, however, Hashem made the world operate in a way that many times it can seem like bad things are happening to us, thereby giving us an opportunity to be able to exercise our emunah, our belief; although I seem to see what appears to be bad, however, I am going to make an effort to believe and have emunah that the only reason Hashem is doing this is in order to give me an opportunity to choose to believe in what He's taught me, in His Torah sources, which is ultimately the only true perspective, Hashem's perspective, that absolutely anything and everything that transpires throughout my life can only be for my good.
We ought to constantly remind ourselves about what the Mishnah states, which is ultimately coded in the Shulchan Aruch. חייב אדם לברך על הראה כשם שמברך על הטובה - that a person is obligated to bless Hashem for the seemingly bad times in the same way that one would bless Hashem for the seemingly good times. We know that in halacha there are certain blessings prescribed to the birth of children and in the same way there are certain blessings prescribed to when one experiences the death of a family member. And we also have certain blessings prescribed in halacha when one receives a large amount of money or an item of substantial value and in the same way when one loses a large amount of money there is a blessing outlined. And ultimately as we've learnt many times, this stems from the fact that we ought to believe that everything that transpires throughout our lives is directly orchestrated from Hashem and can only be for our best because that is why He created us. But again our job is to believe that when other factors seem to indicate the opposite.
There are many great sages and Torah sources that outline the benefits of fulfilling this law where we bless and thank Hashem for not only the things we perceive as good but also for the things we perceive as challenges and tragedy. The main student of Rabbi Nachman of Breslov in his book Likutei Halachot writes the following: "If everyone would constantly give thanks and praise to Hashem whether under good circumstances or not, then surely all the troubles and all the exiles would be completely nullified and the complete redemption would take place." There are many Torah passages outlined by many great sages along similar lines.
What we are learning here is that of course by thanking Hashem and being grateful for even the challenges throughout our lives, the ultimate benefit is that we are fulfilling our purpose in this world to have emunah, but an additional fringe benefit is that by choosing to be grateful and thank Hashem for what we perceive as challenges and say, "Hashem you know the fact that I lost all this money it is so hard for me and it hurts me but if that is what you sent me I have no doubt that this is the best thing in the world. Thank you so much Hashem for making me lose one million dollars in this crazy transaction that took place. Although this is such a huge blow to me and I have no idea how I am going to come out of this, I am going to thank you with all my heart because Hashem if you created me and you sent me this situation and I trust that everything you do in the world is only for my best there is no question in the world that this too is for my best. Thank you so much Hashem for making me lose a million dollars."
And as we are taught here, by doing so, one of the great fringe benefits is that that itself is the catalyst to turning the tragedy and challenge into a time of revealed blessing, a time where we perceive it as good. May we all merit to thank Hashem for all the things in our lives, for the things we perceive as good as well as the things we perceive as bad. And Im Yirtzeh Hashem, may we all merit to lives where we can perceive the goodness that Hashem is sending us at every moment throughout our lives.

280 - Gratitude (Part-9)

We've been discussing one of the most important components of what it means to live a life of Torah, the true perspective of Hashem. And as discussed, having a daily commitment of a certain amount of time where I can focus on and contemplate all the things that I perceive as good, just to appreciate them and be grateful for them, is something very conducive to living a life of gratitude, which will ultimately lead to a life of joy and simcha. And in addition to that, it would be wise to also devote a certain amount of time to try to contemplate the things that I might perceive as negative and as bad, but nevertheless communicate with Hashem that we trust that whatever He does is for our best, because He only does what is best for us. As mentioned, this concept is codified in the Shulchan Aruch where it states that a person is obligated to bless and thank Hashem for both the things that we perceive as good as well as the things that we perceive as bad, because ultimately nothing in the world is bad. Everything that Hashem does can only be for our best.
Remember what all the Torah commentaries teach us as to the most vital question of why Hashem decided to create the world in the first place, and what they all unanimously state is that ultimately, Hashem did not need to create anyone nor anything, but He did so just because He wants to share His goodness with us. That is the starting point to never forget that anything and everything that ever transpires can only be for a positive effect that Hashem is bringing about, because that is the only reason He created the world in the first place. It happens to be that for our ultimate benefit, there needs to be negativity in the world. There needs to be the potential to sin, to break our relationship with Hashem, and there needs to be tragedy and challenges that transpire. However, ultimately it is only for one purpose. It is ultimately just so that Hashem can give to us in the highest, most potent and powerful way which only He understands, the exact course that will bring about this desired result in the most effective way.
There is a story of the two famous and pious brothers, Rav Zusha and Rav Elimelech. It happened one time that because of the antisemitism, these two great tzaddikim were imprisoned. Not having committed any form of transgression, but just because of the antisemitism, some pretext was found against them. And whilst in prison, one of the brothers started crying, and the other brother said to him, why are you crying? We know Hashem runs the world exclusively. Are you worried? Are you scared? What are you worried about? Just like Hashem put us in here, He could take us out at any moment. And if He wants us to remain here, then of course that is for the best.
So why are you crying? And the brother retorted back, you think I'm crying about that? I'm not scared. I know that everything happens only for the best. And if Hashem wants us to be here right now, that is for sure for the best. And if He wants to take us out, He can do so at any moment, because He runs the world exclusively. You know why I'm crying? Because I see the sun is about to set, and the mincha prayer which I have not yet recited needs to be said before the sun has set. However, one is also forbidden to pray if there is a foul odor nearby oneself. And we here are locked in this small room, and right there in the middle of the room, there is a garbage can with a foul odor emanating from it. And therefore, I am unable to pray the mincha services now. And the sun is about to set. I have never missed the mincha prayer before. And now, for the first time in my life, I am going to miss this prayer. This is the reason I am crying.
And the brother retorted back, what is the reason you usually daven mincha? Is it not because Hashem commanded you to daven mincha? Well, if Hashem put you in this situation right now, where you are locked in a room and are unable to daven mincha, then just like Hashem is the one who usually commands you to daven mincha, today Hashem is the one commanding you not to daven mincha. And the two brothers began to dance around the garbage can, celebrating that this was their best way to serve Hashem now, because everything Hashem does is for the best. It happened to be that as an anecdote to the story, the prison warden came and saw that there was such tremendous joy about this garbage can that they were dancing around, and because of his hatred for the Jews not wanting them to have any joy, he removed the garbage can, thinking that this was some form of ritual and the brothers were of course now free to continue with their services. 
Sometimes, when we choose to focus on the good, to be appreciative and grateful, and to be full of joy, that itself is the catalyst to removing the heartache and challenges that are presented to us. But perhaps an even deeper message is to contemplate on the fact that anything and everything that happens throughout our lives is always exclusively orchestrated directly from Hashem and therefore can only be for our best.

279 - Gratitude (Part-8)

We've been discussing one of the most important and fundamental components to Judaism and Torah. As mentioned, the only animal offering that will remain in the future is the offering of the Todah, because although we might reach such a high spiritual level in the future that we will not need the other offerings, however, the offering that is brought in light of our gratitude to Hashem remains forever. And that is because gratitude is such a fundamental and important component to who and what we are. 
In the same vein, we are taught that all songs will cease to exist in the future. And again, because of the level that we will climb to, we will be beyond what songs can communicate and express. But the one song that will remain is Mizmor L'soda - is the song of gratitude, because thanking Hashem is something that is with us forever. We also learnt the Gemara which is codified in the Shulchan Aruch that states that a person is obligated to bless and thank Hashem for the good things that transpire in our lives as well as the bad things that transpire in our lives. And as pointed out, sometimes one might feel like a certain practice is saved for some super pious and righteous individuals, however, this is a law codified in the Shulchan Aruch which is applicable to every single one of us. 
In addition to having a daily commitment of a certain amount of time where one thanks Hashem for all of the good things in our lives, it could be very advisable to also dedicate a certain amount of time where I try contemplate on things which are seemingly bad and difficult and tragedies that I might be experiencing, and nevertheless find it within me to say, "Hashem, I know that this can only be for the best, because if You are sending this to me, there is no question that You will only do what is best for me."
Let's say I am looking after another family member who is elderly and unwell, and being a good person, I make my maximum effort to look after them. I consult doctors, I try get the right guidance to give them their best treatment. I wake up one morning to the sad news that this family member has passed away. And it's also currently going all over the news that only just recently a certain medication was discovered that has a 99% success rate to treat this illness, and for whatever reason I did not see that information on the news. 
The wrong approach would be to say, "if only I knew about this news information, I would have saved my family member's life, I regret so much that I didn't look around more on the news and I didn't talk to more people, because maybe, who knows, I would have found the solution." If a person is responsible and made a reasonable amount of effort to look after their family member, an emunah approach would teach, the fact that I did not see that information on the news is just because Hashem did not want my family member to live more. For whatever reason, it was the best thing that they should be taken from us now, because everything that happens in the world can only be for the best. 
"Thank you Hashem for teaching me this golden information, the true perspective, your perspective, that anything and everything that transpires throughout my life is directly orchestrated by You, and therefore, whether I perceive it as good or if I perceive it as bad is only my perception, but ultimately, anything and everything that happens is always directly orchestrated from You and always only what is absolutely best for me."

278 - Gratitude (Part-7)

We've been discussing how one of the most important fundamentals of living a happy life is being able to notice all the blessings we receive on a daily basis, which will thereby lead us to expressing gratitude to Hashem for the many blessings He constantly gives us. Expressing our feelings of gratitude to Hashem is clearly one of the fundamentals and most basic principles of the Torah. As we've learned many times, there is a Torah passage which outlines many curses which could befall the Jewish people just because they did not serve Hashem with simcha. When we neglect living lives of gratitude and joy, although one might be performing the mitzvahs in a practical way, one is missing one of the most important components of what it means to live life as a Jew. 
We are taught that in the future, all of the animal offerings which were brought in the temple will be discontinued except for one, the toda offering, because the toda offering is to say thank you. Although all of the offerings might be extremely elated and holy beyond anything we can imagine, however, the level that we will rise to in the future will be even greater than that and therefore the offerings will be unnecessary and won't have a place anymore. However, the offering of thank you will always remain because to be grateful is such a fundamental component of what it means to be a Jew that will remain with us forever regardless of our spiritual levels that we climb to. 
One component of expressing our gratitude is contemplating on all the amazing gifts and blessings that Hashem has blessed us with and as discussed, dedicating a certain amount of time every day to make efforts in thanking Hashem for all of these things will certainly be very conducive to living a life of gratitude. In addition to all the things that we perceive as gifts from Hashem, be it food, health, family, money, relationships or whatever else it might be, the halacha outlines that just like we are called on to bless Hashem and thank Him for all the things that we perceive as good, we are also called on to bless Hashem and thank Him for the things that we perceive as bad. This is a teaching from the Gemara which is also codified in the Shulchan Aruch as the law. It should not be viewed as a pious act for some righteous individual on a very high level, but rather applicable to every Jew that we should internalize that we need to thank Hashem for everything, both what we perceive as good as well as what we perceive as bad. 
As we know, there are blessings that are outlined for an individual to recite when tragedy strikes such as death, loss of large amount of money and other things. And the reason for that is because if we truly trust Hashem, we will understand that anything that happens is ultimately for our best, even when it might seem like there is no possible way for this to be good. But if we are able to humble ourselves to realize that we have no idea what's truly going on in the bigger picture of things in Hashem's books, but rather we live our lives with a trust that everything that He does is for sure for our best, then we will be able to trust and appreciate and be grateful for anything that happens. 
Of course, we are allowed to feel feelings of pain because we are human beings, and the halacha itself even dictates certain periods such as the mourning period for losing a relative and other similar things. At the same time, we are called on to feel feelings of appreciation and gratitude for everything that Hashem does because if Hashem decided to do something, there is no question that it is for my best. "Thank you Hashem for teaching me that everything that happens in my life is a gift from You and always going to be for my best."

277 - Gratitude (Part-6)

We've been discussing how when we adopt an approach to life, of seeing everything that we receive from Hashem as a gift, rather than assuming that it's something owed to us, that will lead us to feeling constant feelings of appreciation and gratitude to Hashem, which will ultimately also lead to being joyful and besimcha, and of course, having a constant close relationship with Hashem. 
Of course, it is not easy to remain with that mode of thought all the time, because most of the messages of the world around us are conducive to exactly the opposite. So what are we to do, seeing as it is a difficult ordeal, living lives with constant gratitude? As always, the solution to all problems, step number one, is talk to Hashem. 
"Hashem my Father, I want to be grateful. I want to see all the blessings that You give me and take nothing for granted. But Hashem, the messages in the world are conducive to exactly the opposite and it's difficult for me to remain with that mode of thought. Please Hashem, help me to notice all the things that You give me, from the smallest to the biggest on a daily basis. And in return, maybe something I can do from my part, Hashem, is commit to a certain amount of time that I will contemplate on some of the gifts that You bless me with on a daily basis and thank You for those things."
For some people, maybe to write these things down would be beneficial, and then perhaps to take the things one's written down and dedicate a certain amount of time to talking to Hashem about those things and thanking Hashem for them. 
"Thank you so much Hashem for the gift to be able to talk. Imagine what my life would be if I was not able to communicate with those around me. I know that whatever I say to you Hashem is only going to be a drop in the ocean, but I know that You only expect of me to tell You a drop in the ocean, because I am just a human being and therefore I will just do my best." 
Making a daily commitment and having a safety net of a certain amount of time that I will talk to Hashem and express my gratitude for as many things that I can think of would be very conducive to remaining in the space of being grateful rather than living a life where I might feel that everything is owed to me. Remember, our relationship with Hashem is not something that is objectively the same to all of us, rather each one of us has our personal relationship with Hashem. Some of the points that are being mentioned here are just some ideas to help one perhaps get started or motivate ourselves to continue to move towards the right direction and living a life of appreciation, of gratitude and of joy and simcha. But ultimately, the way we do so will depend from individual to individual.
For some, maybe just to recite the bracha Asher Yatzar with real meaning and intention will bring about feelings of appreciation and gratitude. For others, after reciting the bracha, to talk in their own words and say, "Hashem, thank You so much for the gift of being able to use the bathroom and not have to experience any pain. There were times that I did experience pain, and I know how painful it can be. And something so basic, like using the bathroom, which I might need multiple times a day, if I experience pain, or perhaps even excruciating pain, I would be completely dysfunctional and everything else in my life would become unimportant because I wouldn't manage. Thank You so much, Hashem, for the gift to be able to use the bathroom once again without pain." 
There are so many things, and life tries to distract us to forget to live a life of gratitude, to forget to have a personal relationship with Hashem. "Thank You, Hashem, for teaching us what life is truly about."

276 - Gratitude (Part-5)

We've been discussing how one of the most important foundations in our service to Hashem is following Hashem's commandments and in general, living our lives with a feeling of joy and simcha. When we have the right perspective, it is much easier to live our lives in a mode of joy and simcha. However, sometimes we get used to receiving so many of our needs and gifts beyond our needs that we begin to expect these things on a daily basis. 
The fact that yesterday I might have eaten breakfast, lunch and supper, as well as the day before that, as well as as long as I can remember, I have always had the opportunity to eat food when I am hungry, because that is what we are accustomed to, it sometimes might feel like Hashem owes us those things. Imagine today I don't have food, I am hungry and I am thirsty, and either because I don't have money, or even if I do have the money, there could be a drought, a famine, or whatever other reason. 
When something is taken away from us, it is much easier to begin to appreciate the things that are given to us. If we are able to just contemplate on the fact that Hashem ultimately doesn't owe us anything, then when we look around, we will see just how many gifts Hashem is giving us every single moment. If we were to stop breathing for a few moments and then suddenly that gift to be able to breathe was returned to us, we would feel much more appreciation. 
When we internalize that Hashem doesn't owe us anything, but rather every moment He is giving us so many gifts, that will lead us, ultimately, to living lives of joy and simcha. Because if we feel that a whole list of items might be due to us—food, money, love, relationships, health, or whatever else it might be—when we don't receive those things, we become disappointed. Whereas if we feel we are owed nothing, every single time we receive even the smallest thing, we will be led to feelings of appreciation, of joy, of gratitude, of simcha. 
I happened to be sitting in a room recently when the weather was particularly hot. Usually this room has a nice air conditioning system, which makes it very comfortable to be there even when the weather is uncomfortably and unpleasantly hot. When at a particular time the air conditioner was not working and it became unbearably hot in that room, it struck me how something so small would make such a difference to my life if it was not there. If air conditioners did not exist and I would have to sweat in this uncomfortable heat on a daily basis, what a difference it would make. And the truth of the matter is that, until the air conditioner stopped, it was difficult for me to appreciate the tremendous gift that I have on a daily basis to sit in nice, comfortable weather indoors even when it might be excruciatingly hot and uncomfortable outdoors.
"Hashem, my Father, thank You so much for the gift of this air conditioning that You have given me. You know that I am a human being, and although I might want to feel and express feelings of gratitude and appreciation to You, I am limited by my human nature, and the fact that You give me things on a daily basis, so many things, leads me to be unappreciative. However, Hashem, I ask You, please don't take things away from me to teach me the lesson that I should be appreciative, which will ultimately lead me to feel feelings of joy. But rather, Hashem, help me on my own accord to start appreciating things, even the smallest of things. 
Please, Hashem, help me to devote at least five minutes every day just to thanking You for anything and everything that I might think of. Although this might be a drop in the ocean compared to all the gifts that You give me, Hashem, however, I do want to express to You, to do my little part. Thank You, Hashem, for this incredible air conditioner that You have gifted me every day. If I didn't have this air conditioner, I would be so uncomfortable. Perhaps the heat would cause me to have headaches, and I would be in a constant state of discomfort. Thank You so much, Hashem, for this tremendous gift that You have given me, and this is just a drop in the ocean.
Hashem, thank You for all the gifts in the world. And Hashem, I ask You, please can You help me to live a life of thanking You every day, perhaps at least five minutes a day, or perhaps more if I'm able to, because I know that when I'm in a state of gratitude, that will automatically lead me to live a life of joy and simcha."

275 - Gratitude (Part-4)

The Gemara in one place teaches us that since the time of the destruction of the base Hamikdash, the gates of prayer have been locked. The Gemara elsewhere, however, teaches that even were there to be such a strong separation, such as an iron wall dividing us away from Hashem, nevertheless we would never be separated from Hashem, and our prayers always have the potential to make their way up to Hashem. And one of the classic commentators, the Maharsha, writes that in order to resolve this contradiction, that when it comes to prayers of gratitude, then there is no barrier whatsoever between Hashem and ourselves in terms of our prayers, whereas when it comes to other forms of prayer, requests and the like, then since the time of the destruction of the base Hamikdash, it is more difficult for our prayers to make their way up to Hashem. 
I read an amazing story in the book, Just One Word Emunah, by Esther Stern, that drives this point home. There was a couple who got married in the year 1979. For ten years they were unable to have children, and of course throughout that process and time they made their efforts to try and enable them to have children, be it seeing doctors or spiritual endeavors. Another ten years passed, now twenty years in total, with still no sign of any child or possibility of having children in sight. This of course was a point of tremendous heartache in this couple's life. Nevertheless, being God-fearing Jews, they went to receive blessings from some great people, and the woman in the story recounts that their situation was so impossible to have children, when they went to certain great people, they were encouraged to accept their situation that they weren't meant to have children. However, this woman says that she had learned that there is never a space to give up, and even when all odds are against an individual, one can always pray for things to turn into their favor. 
The woman in the story reports that she and her husband, during this period of being unable to have children, and of course having this at the forefront of their minds all the time, visited Kever Rachel, the holy place of the tomb of Rachel, every morning for two years reciting the entire book of Tehillim. Now for most of us, that would be a very big spiritual effort. Nevertheless, they did not see a sign of children. After 31 years of being unable to have children, says the woman in the story, she was speaking to a friend who had learned about the concept of thanking Hashem both for the times that we understand as good, as well as for the unpleasant times, because although we don't see the good in those situations, we believe that Hashem will only send our way what is good for us. 
And after learning about this concept, she and her husband decided to change course completely, and instead of requesting from Hashem to have a child, they began thanking Hashem for 32 years of being unable to have children, firstly, thanking Hashem for their emunah in their lives, being able to believe that if Hashem has sent them a certain challenge, of course it will be for their best, and perhaps also finding other reasons why Hashem's decree could be for their good, such as for 32 years they have had the opportunity to live with a certain level of humility and connection to Hashem, and dependency of Hashem praying to Him so much in perhaps a way that many others could not do. 
And she says that this became their mode of thinking in all areas of their life. When something broke in their house, although one's instinctive response is to be frustrated or complain, they got into a mode where they said, "thank you Hashem that the washing machine just broke; thank you Hashem that the fridge now needs repair", and believe it or not, after 32 years, this woman and her husband merited to have a child. And she passionately describes how more potent than any form of prayer or spiritual endeavor, to just thank Hashem is the highest of the high because again, if we believe that Hashem can do and only does good for us, we will thank Him for everything.

274 - Gratitude (Part-3)

There is a fascinating teaching that helps us to digest emunah and the way that we pray in a powerful way. Rabbeinu Bechaye and other Torah commentaries write that before every single neshama descends into this world, each soul is given the opportunity to outline and choose all the details of what will transpire throughout their lives. And each one of us goes and chooses exactly what type of being we will be, what our characteristics will be, how much money we will have, who our family and friends will be, what our health will look like, if we will have children and how many, and all the other many details that transpire throughout our lives.
If we remember and internalize with our emunah these words of Rabbeinu Bechaye, that we ourselves have pre-chosen every single nuance and detail that will transpire in our lives, it can help us tremendously in our endeavor of emunah and bitachon. Before we came into this world, when we were not limited by our body and human limitations, we have the opportunity and ability to see through the lens of absolute truth, through the full picture. And therefore, our neshamas choose exactly what is best for us before we come into the world, because our neshamas can see everything there, why it is good for us. And in this world, as discussed many times, we do not see, we have to believe. But if we remember that we've already chosen all the details to our own lives, ourselves, it can be tremendously inspiring to accept all situations with love and happiness. 
We've discussed many times that the highest and most potent prayer that we can opt to pray is the prayer of thank you. And it is worth highlighting two sides of the coin when it comes to thanking Hashem. The first and most obvious is thanking Hashem for what we did experience when He came through for us, and investing time and energy into verbalizing and expressing those feelings to Hashem. "Thank you so much, Hashem, for the gift to be able to keep Shabbos and all its tremendous blessing every single week. Thank you so much, Hashem, for the opportunity to be able to have eyes and be able to see. Thank you, Hashem, for the gift to be able to breathe. Thank you, Hashem, for the incredible family that you've given me. Thank you, Hashem, for all the paranassah and food that you've given me throughout my life." And the more we thank Hashem, the better, because in a sense, we are then appreciating more. And as we've discussed, when Hashem hears our thank you's to Him, He then brings about more blessing in all areas of our life.
And the other side of the coin when it comes to thank you is thanking Hashem for those things that we do not understand and see the good in, but we believe that Hashem can and will only send us good. Remember, we ourselves, before we came down into this world, chose all the details precisely of what would transpire throughout our lives, not because we were forced to, but because we chose that that will be the best for us. And with that perspective and understanding, it is easy to thank Hashem for anything and everything which might transpire. "Thank you so much, Hashem, for the fact that I broke my toe, because, of course, I don't know all your calculations why that is good for me, but I know for sure that that is good for me. And in fact, I might myself even be able to think of reasons why that may be good for me. Thank you, Hashem, for breaking my toe, because the truth of the matter is that I get quite busy with my life, with the many obligations that I have to take care of, and I don't usually appreciate the fact that I can walk around without this constant pain bragging at me.
Thank you, Hashem, for now breaking my toe and giving me the opportunity to appreciate all those other times. And thank you, Hashem, for the fact that I didn't break my other toe, my arm, my legs, and all the other incredible things that you've given me in the health of my body. And the truth of the matter is, Hashem, there are many deeper reasons why you might have caused me to break my toe. Perhaps there might have been some form of consequence waiting for me in the next world for some act or sin that I might have committed, and you, in your loving kindness, would rather me clean that slate by stabbing my toe in this world. Thank you, Hashem, for all the incredible gifts that you've given me, both those that I do understand as well as those that I don't understand, but just believe that are for sure for my best."

273 - Gratitude (Part-2)

We've discussed that the Torah commentaries outline that there are many chambers in the heavenly realms and sometimes a specific prayer can only make its way up if certain criteria are met, perhaps related to our righteousness, to our commitment and performance of the mitzvahs, to how sincere we were in verbalizing that prayer and many other factors. We've also discussed that Torah authorities outline to us that there is one chamber in the heavenly realms where no angels have any jurisdiction, the chamber of our prayers of gratitude. And that being the case, even when our merits do not dictate for our prayer to be answered, Hashem overlooks the situations many times, bringing about what we have desired, even when we shouldn't have deserved so.
The potency and power of thanking Hashem and the responsibility and opportunity for each one of us to do so is portrayed to us in the laws of davening. There are three prescribed prayers and the main part of the prayer is where everybody stands and prays the prescribed prayer quietly. After the quiet Shemona Esrei, the leader of the davening repeats the Shemona Esrei for the basic reason that if somebody does not know how to pray, this prayer can now be counted for all the individuals who do not know how to pray as if they prayed themselves. This law was much more relevant in times of old where used to pray without any siddurim and it was common for people to come to a synagogue and not know how to pray. However, even though we do have siddurim today, this law nevertheless still stands for various reasons. 
It is worthwhile to point out that although one is able to fulfill their obligation of prayer by listening to the words and recitation of the Chazan, nevertheless, when we reach the paragraph of Modim which deals with thanking Hashem for the many blessings that He has given us, there there is a special paragraph that we all have to recite ourselves and commentaries explain because although all prayers are important but in a sense the most important prayer is the prayer of thank you and therefore when we reach the section of thank you in the repetition of the Shemona Esrei, it does not suffice for us to just hear the words of the Chazan and fulfill our obligation in that way; rather, we need to verbalize the thank you in our own words every single one of us. The gift of saying thank you to Hashem is available to every single one of us at every opportunity. Thank you Hashem for the privilege of waking up to another day and all the opportunities that you have presented me in my life.
"Thank you Hashem for the incredible opportunity to recite brachos today over everything I'm going to eat and drink and every time I use the bathroom. Thank you Hashem for the ability to go to the bathroom without pain so many times. Thank you my loving Father for the opportunity to be learning Torah, to be trying to and to have a personal relationship with you. Thank you Hashem for giving me a mouth and teaching me how to talk and giving me the opportunity to pray to you about anything and everything I might need and in particular thank you Hashem for the opportunity to thank you for all the gifts that you bestow on me in so many different ways. Thank you Hashem for all the gifts that you have given me."