171 - Bittersweet Jewels

We've been discussing how one of the most important fundamentals of living a happy life is being able to notice all the blessings we receive on a daily basis, which will thereby lead us to expressing gratitude to Hashem for the many blessings He constantly gives us. 

Expressing our feelings of gratitude to Hashem is clearly one of the fundamentals and most basic principles of the Torah. As we've learned many times, there is a Torah passage which outlines many curses which could befall the Jewish people just because they did not serve Hashem with simcha. When we neglect living lives of gratitude and joy, although one might be performing the mitzvahs in a practical way, one is missing one of the most important components of what it means to live life as a Jew. 

We are taught that in the future, all of the animal offerings which were brought in the temple will be discontinued except for one, the toda offering, because the toda offering is to say thank you. Although all of the offerings might be extremely elated and holy beyond anything we can imagine, however, the level that we will rise to in the future will be even greater than that and therefore the offerings will be unnecessary and won't have a place anymore. However, the offering of thank you will always remain because to be grateful is such a fundamental component of what it means to be a Jew that will remain with us forever regardless of our spiritual levels that we climb to. 

One component of expressing our gratitude is contemplating on all the amazing gifts and blessings that Hashem has blessed us with and as discussed, dedicating a certain amount of time every day to make efforts in thanking Hashem for all of these things will certainly be very conducive to living a life of gratitude. In addition to all the things that we perceive as gifts from Hashem, be it food, health, family, money, relationships or whatever else it might be, the halacha outlines that just like we are called on to bless Hashem and thank Him for all the things that we perceive as good, we are also called on to bless Hashem and thank Him for the things that we perceive as bad.

This is a teaching from the Gemara which is also codified in the Shulchan Aruch as the law. It should not be viewed as a pious act for some righteous individual on a very high level, but rather applicable to every Jew that we should internalize that we need to thank Hashem for everything, both what we perceive as good as well as what we perceive as bad. 

As we know, there are blessings that are outlined for an individual to recite when tragedy strikes such as death, loss of large amount of money and other things. And the reason for that is because if we truly trust Hashem, we will understand that anything that happens is ultimately for our best, even when it might seem like there is no possible way for this to be good. But if we are able to humble ourselves to realize that we have no idea what's truly going on in the bigger picture of things in Hashem's books, but rather we live our lives with a trust that everything that He does is for sure for our best, then we will be able to trust and appreciate and be grateful for anything that happens. 

Of course, we are allowed to feel feelings of pain because we are human beings, and the halacha itself even dictates certain periods such as the mourning period for losing a relative and other similar things. At the same time, we are called on to feel feelings of appreciation and gratitude for everything that Hashem does because if Hashem decided to do something, there is no question that it is for my best. "Thank you Hashem for teaching me that everything that happens in my life is a gift from You and always going to be for my best."