170 - Appreciation and Gratitude

We've been discussing how when we adopt an approach to life, of seeing everything that we receive from Hashem as a gift, rather than assuming that it's something owed to us, that will lead us to feeling constant feelings of appreciation and gratitude to Hashem, which will ultimately also lead to being joyful and besimcha, and of course, having a constant close relationship with Hashem. 

Of course, it is not easy to remain with that mode of thought all the time, because most of the messages of the world around us are conducive to exactly the opposite. So what are we to do, seeing as it is a difficult ordeal, living lives with constant gratitude? As always, the solution to all problems, step number one, is talk to Hashem. 

"Hashem my Father, I want to be grateful. I want to see all the blessings that You give me and take nothing for granted. But Hashem, the messages in the world are conducive to exactly the opposite and it's difficult for me to remain with that mode of thought. Please Hashem, help me to notice all the things that You give me, from the smallest to the biggest on a daily basis. And in return, maybe something I can do from my part, Hashem, is commit to a certain amount of time that I will contemplate on some of the gifts that You bless me with on a daily basis and thank You for those things."

For some people, maybe to write these things down would be beneficial, and then perhaps to take the things one's written down and dedicate a certain amount of time to talking to Hashem about those things and thanking Hashem for them. 

"Thank you Hashem that we've just had the opportunity to fulfill tremendous mitzvos throughout the High Holidays, Sukkos, Simchas Torah, with all the mitzvahs that accompany them. Thank you so much Hashem for the gift to be able to talk. Imagine what my life would be if I was not able to communicate with those around me. I know that whatever I say to you Hashem is only going to be a drop in the ocean, but I know that You only expect of me to tell You a drop in the ocean, because I am just a human being and therefore I will just do my best." 

Making a daily commitment and having a safety net of a certain amount of time that I will talk to Hashem and express my gratitude for as many things that I can think of would be very conducive to remaining in the space of being grateful rather than living a life where I might feel that everything is owed to me. Remember, our relationship with Hashem is not something that is objectively the same to all of us, rather each one of us has our personal relationship with Hashem. Some of the points that are being mentioned here are just some ideas to help one perhaps get started or motivate ourselves to continue to move towards the right direction and living a life of appreciation, of gratitude and of joy and simcha. But ultimately, the way we do so will depend from individual to individual.

For some, maybe just to recite the bracha Asher Yatzar with real meaning and intention will bring about feelings of appreciation and gratitude. For others, after reciting the bracha, to talk in their own words and say, "Hashem, thank You so much for the gift of being able to use the bathroom and not have to experience any pain. There were times that I did experience pain, and I know how painful it can be. And something so basic, like using the bathroom, which I might need multiple times a day, if I experience pain, or perhaps even excruciating pain, I would be completely dysfunctional and everything else in my life would become unimportant because I wouldn't manage. Thank You so much, Hashem, for the gift to be able to use the bathroom once again without pain." 

There are so many things, and life tries to distract us to forget to live a life of gratitude, to forget to have a personal relationship with Hashem. "Thank You, Hashem, for teaching us what life is truly about."